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I’m sure you’ve seen a certain image splattered across your social media this week following Theresa May and Nicola Sturgeons meeting to discuss the future of the relationship between the 2 countries they govern and the EU.

Now, if you haven’t seen said image, what does my above description make you think the picture is going to be of? Let me explain… 2 powerful women smiling appropriately for a political photo they know will be seen by millions on people. So, naturally, they made themselves look like professional women having a professional meeting and therefore dressed in a way that made them feel as so. Power dressing at it’s finest.

But instead of the press, specifically the Daily Mail, commenting on the important decisions that will ultimately come from these 2 people meeting, they decided to comment… wait for it… on their legs.

Legs.

2 limbs.

Well known apparatus, used predominately for walking (or kicking narrow-minded dickwits where it hurts, how you choose to use yours is up to you).

The front page looked something like this.

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I’ll just give you a couple of seconds to digest that before I continue.

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If you can’t see what’s immediately wrong with this front page or realise how horrendously derogatory this is, well, go up to the nearest feminist (male or female) and I’m sure they’ll happily explain it to you.

You know what makes this worse?? A woman wrote this. Sarah Vine. A journalist, whose job is the share important news and write in a way that is accessible and informative. I mean, she made a grave mistake taking a job at the Daily Mail for starters but to actually agree to write this piece is a thousand nails in her journalistic coffin in my opinion.

I know I’m just one of millions of bloggers commenting on this issue but it just angers me so much that not only is sexist as hell, it’s also trying to make a serious situation less serious by instead focusing on their legs?! It’s hilariously ridiculous.

She went on to report to discuss whether they had some of the “Finest weapons at their command? Those pins!”…

REALLY

What about their knowledge? Their presence. Their position in government?! She instead chose, for the sake of a shitty headline, to be a sexist bitch instead. This is precisely what is wrong with the world and why people don’t take feminism and feminists seriously – it’s important and stuff like this needs to change.

What gives The Daily Mail the right to print something like that? They knew exactly the response it would have on the world and how angry it would make people –  and in a sick and twisted way it’s as if they want to make a mockery of the entire movement.

She also referred to Sturgeon’s legs as “altogether more flirty, tantalisingly crossed … a direct attempt at seduction”. WHY ON EARTH DOES THIS REPORTER THINK STURGEON WAS IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM TRYING TO SEDUCE ANYBODY?!?!?!? MAYBE SHE WAS JUST GETTING COMFORTABLE AND CROSSING HER LEGS WAS HOW SHE DECIDED TO SIT THAT DAY.

They were both just doing their job for god’s sake. They just wanted feel and look good, for themselves by wearing a skirt (god forbid they didn’t wear any tights, that would have made Vine’s head explode with even more outrageous headlines), not for anyone else, and certainly not so some idiot journalist could make dumb comments for the sake of it.

It’s honestly laughable why the reporter even decided to go there… it just proves that feminism still has a long long way to go in terms of being taken seriously in the press. I’m not claiming to be an expert in this field or preach to anyone but if this is still being accepted as suitable journalism in 2017, it makes me even more determined to become one myself and write about things that actually matter – like the headline that article should have led with – our relationship with Scotland going forward, not they’re bloody legs jeeeeesus.

I just want the world to be a place where headlines like that aren’t even considered – let alone printed… if it were a picture of 2 men posing for the same picture I’m nearly 100% positive what they were wearing or how they were sat wouldn’t be the subject of any article!

If you take anything from this post, apart from the obvious anger I hope you share with me, just stop buying/reading the Daily Mail. It’s non-representative and completely non-progessive.

Everything they report on is written in a way to create a reaction – a reaction I have well and truly given them and if that was the aim, then congratu-fucking-lations.

Enjoy it.

 

 

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What it means to be a Lady

I wanted to write this post when I saw the title of Lady Gaga’s article she wrote for Harpers Bazaar. I hadn’t even read the piece itself and I knew I’d have a lot to say on this topic. The term lady is defined as either a polite way to refer to a women or a way of describing a women, of title, with a higher social position. But for Lady Gaga, it’s the lady she wants to become that defines it for her – and she takes inspiration and guidance from the closest women to her, her mother and grandmother.

In the past, ladies were respected but talked down to, and looked after but treated as less important and less educated as their male partners. Thankfully, in most areas of the world times have dramatically changed but in some areas they really haven’t.

I still remember when I was travelling in India in 2012 and I was with a male – the waiters never addressed me, they always asked him. But that’s the norm – women in India are too often subjected to abuse, domestic and sexual and just general degrading behaviour from their male family members and husbands. According to an article from the Guardian, more than half of the adolescent girls and boys believe that is it ok and justifiable for a man to beat his wife. These are young adults thinking this! If this type of awful thinking is drilled into a person so young of course they’re going to grow up thinking at least a small part of it is true – as it’s what they’re used and accustomed to It makes me so so sad. The entire article documents many Indian women and their personal struggles and accounts of where they’ve been a recipient of all kinds of abuse from men and their country.

These poor women are never going to be able to discover what it means to be the lady they want to be because their own country won’t allow it. One account from the article describes how a women in the mid 50’s was out walking around 10:30 and policeman stopped her, asked her what she was doing and where he husband was – because obviously its ridiculous to assume a women can’t be out alone enjoying a quiet walk… and its even more ridiculous to assume that her husband actually allowed her out?! She may not have even been married – but again, what a silly assumption to make…

Articles like this baffle me completely as I’ve luckily grown up in a country that doesn’t stand for such sexist behaviour… well most of the normal, nice and open minded people of this country anyway. I’m also lucky enough that I can stand up for my gender and point of view if ever I was put in a situation regarding sexism (without being physically hurt)… and trust me, I would have A LOT to say.

Anyway, side track over… My ‘lady’ opinion and definition isn’t formed yet as my view of a lady is someone who’s got where they want to be in their adult life – for me, mines just starting. I find it amusing whenever I’m walking anywhere and mums with their kids walk past, and I let them go first the mum always says ‘Say thank you to the nice lady’, or ‘Mind the lady’… and I’m there, sniggering to myself, thinking I’m so not a lady yet haha, I’m barely a grown up in my eyes!

I don’t know if it’s the fact I’m still living in a shared house, or that my job is just so much fun it doesn’t really feel like work, or the fact I have have my student overdraft (thank yoouuuuu Santander) but I still don’t feel like a grown up. I still feel young – and I have no idea what needs to ‘change’ for me to suddenly click and feel like a ‘lady’. Maybe nothing, and if I’m honest, I don’t really want anything to change, just progress through the natural occurrences life will eventually throw at me

I just think that with age, you just continue to learn and grow, and view past (bad) decisions as a result of a less mature version of yourself. There’s a reason why parents are always right – it’s because they’ve already lived it and have learnt what the best path is.

It’s good to make mistakes, as that’s what forms you into the person, or in my case ‘lady’ I’ll finally become. Right now, I’m pretty content with how things are panning out and I hope, that when these changes start happening, it’ll be because of choices I’ve made that are full of positive outcomes, and scattered with mistakes – they also tend to make the funniest stories ;)

 

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‘You’re too fat’. Sorry what?

A friend of mine told me something outrageous the other day. It is so outrageous… and yet so common.

So, as she calls it, a pretty average crappy club near where she lives (in Reigate), refused entry to a girl. This girl wasn’t smashed, she wasn’t ‘inappropriately’ dressed, she wasn’t rude to the bouncer and she wasn’t underage. The normal reasons people are generally refused entry into clubs.

She was too fat.

What makes me sad is that hearing stories like that doesn’t shock me anymore. Especially now, having been out in London a few times, and being pre-warned I have to dress a certain way, otherwise I’d be turned away at the door.

Too fat?!

She was a size 10. A. SIZE. TEN.

In what way, shape of form is a size 10 fat?!?!??!?!!?

I love a good club night – multiple g&t’s alongside a good cheesy dance room with the usual awful and embarrassing cheesy dancing that always follows is my idea of a top night. I’ve had these when I’ve been dressed up to the nines and I’ve had these after a 12 hour shift in a restaurant so I end up in the club dressed in my work tee and trainers. Looking a right state basically.

What angers me about this is that I’ve heard multiple stories from my friend about this club – it’s nothing special. It sounds like your average small town club and in no way a one of the high-end London clubs who are notoriously known for turning people away for not having the ‘right look’.

Also, when you do make an effort to look good for a night out, I feel this is when girls might feel most self conscious about yourself. I know that I do! If I’m wearing something slim fitting or revealing of course I’m going to feel slightly more exposed and therefore slightly more anxious about how I look.

I can imagine that this ‘fat’ girl was getting ready with her other ‘fat’ friends, pre-drinking, playing a few games and looking forward to a night out somewhere she’s probably been a few times. Little did she know she’d be turned away for her weight?

Theres been a few articles surrounding this subject and the girl in question previously suffered from an eating disorder.

She mentioned in a recent interview that this highlights a much larger problem in society – discrimination against size. No one, ever, should ever be discriminated for the size of their body.

Nobody, unless told, has any idea why that person may have been through, or may be going through that could be having an effect on their weight. It’s a disgusting but common problem in this day and age and when incidents like this happen it just makes me question why nothing more substantial is being done to stop it. Discrimination like this, while it may seem small at first may lead, and has lead, to far more serious mental illnesses that have the power to completely take over and change a person for the worse.

This girl wanted a night out with her friends. She didn’t need a random doorman telling her she wasn’t the right dress size. Who is he to determine the what dress size is ‘right’ anyway!? He doesn’t. As a matter of fact, no one does. If that person feels happy and healthy within themselves, regardless of what the scales say, then, to themselves, they’re ‘right’.

This is classic club routine though… and its utterly ridiculous. The fact that men also have to pay when women get into a lot of places completely free of charge grinds my gears and makes me sad that while so many women and men are fighting so hard for equality and simple mundane things such as the price of a club entry still aren’t fair for both genders.

I’m just baffled by the fact that it’s nearly the end of 2016 and shit like this is still happening. 2016 has been an odd year. And it’s only going to get odder I reckon.

Working in the fashion industry and having come to terms with the fact that gorgeous PHOTOSHOPPED models are plastered across every advertising platform possible – I’ve sort of become immune to it. I know that to achieve the model look is impossible, because it was never real in the first place. But when girls who are so unhappy with how they look see these adverts of course it’s going to have a negative effect on them. Their thoughts just instantly shoot to the classic ‘to be beautiful and the ‘perfect’ shape I MUST look like this model’… these thoughts sometimes lead to detrimental actions and unrealistic ‘goals’.

I just hope that in a years time, I look back on this blog post and the world is different. I hope that people are more accepting, more kind and less afraid to not give a damn about what others think of them. I hope this for myself too. Everyone is guilty for being worried about how others perceive them – and if you can’t admit it then your just kidding yourself.

I hope that women and men can walk around and not be afraid of being made to feel small or insignificant by someone else.

I just hope that change is around the corner, because we really need it. And fast.

Peace and love xxx

(I’m hoping to do a series of blogs all about female empowerment and gender equality… so if that sounds like something you’d like to read (go onnnnn) check back in a week or so when I may or may have got myself sorted and starting posting regularly again!)

 

 

 

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‘You can’t wear skirts or dresses as you may distract the men in your presentation’

Not only is this a ridiculous thing to say in 2016 but I can imagine any men reading this would feel pretty pissed off and generalised! Granted there are some gross perverts, male and female, out there who objectify the opposite gender for their own amusement but thats another story…

Stupidly enough, someone DID say this, to my university class… The leader of our business module, who is is a very successful business woman. Usually when dressing for a presentation I would choose something that a) I felt comfortable in, b) I felt confident in and c) that was appropriate for the setting of the presentation. In this case, it was a formal presentation so I chose to wear black jeans, a black chiffon top with patterned cuffs and some cute Mary-Jane shoes with a slight heel.

So, I rocked on up to our presentation and the other girls in our group were wearing similar apart from one who was wearing a really nice skirt, still smart with long black boots and tights. We were happily waiting outside the room before going in and another girl on my course highlighted to me that our course leader did not want us to wear skirts or dresses encase we ‘distracted the men’ who were judging our presentation… I don’t know about you but this has really angered me!

How dare she, a successful business woman say something like that to a group of young women she has a duty of care towards?? God forbid we show a bit of leg and god forbid a man gets side-tracked because of it!

Literally the whole situation is just appalling and so unbelievably old-fashioned. Women and men have fought tirelessly for years for gender equality in the workplace, and whilst women may not be there yet, in regards to salary differences, we are sure as hell respected and we respect the men right back.

It just makes me so angry. As a 22 year old, fashion conscious woman, yet to enter the ‘real’ work world, I am never EVER going to worry about the length of my skirt because it might disrupt a man. I would also like to think that our lecturer knows that we can correctly interpret how to dress for a professional presentation whilst still showing off our individual personality and style, seeing as fashion is our degree and we’ve done like 20 presentations over our uni career… But no, she just assumes we’re all dopey girls who have no idea how to present ourselves appropriately.

I don’t know if it’s because she is an older woman and has maybe encountered negative connotations to dressing in a slightly feminine way, but its the 21st fricking century… this sort of stuff shouldn’t matter now and it’s so so sad that even in UK, a country that champions change and challenges opinion, that this is still an issue. It sends shivers down my spine when I think of the women in other counties where gender equality is still so far away and infuriates me that they STILL have to deal with discrimination against the female race.

Slight rant I realise but I felt it needed to be said! I just hope that when I have children, boys and girls, that gender equality isn’t even an issue and that we are all treated exactly the same, because why the hell shouldn’t we be?!

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